To be hurt

When was the moment when I stopped caring what people thought. When I stopped avoiding people so I wouldn't get hurt. I'm sure I would try to avoid getting hurting but I didnt base my life around it.

I just don't get it... By saying that you don't want to get hurt seems rather selfish to me. Your not thinking about anyone else, just yourself.

If your goal in life is to avoid getting hurt then isnt that an impossible task? Not getting hurt isn't avoiding people, it's facing them and making a choice not to care. Making the choice to let it go and get on with your life.

We will all get hurt, thats inevitable but I would be choosing very carefully what I get hurt over. I still get upset about some really stupid things. But not everything. Otherwise I really would be a basket case!

Just thinking out loud here, I wanted to get straight in my head what the problem was. I think the point is, to live a life that is hurt free is impossible, so to choose to let go is a mature option. I guess when we've learnt to do that then we are on our way to gaining wisdom and maturity.

Maybe God allows situations to come our way so we have the choice to react. We choose to take offense or to let it go. We choose to be discouraged or to be open for learning. We are naturally selfish beings, it takes a lot of work to fight our natural instinct. But it can be done. How would we have found cures for disease if someone hadn't given up there life to help others. To put their own needs aside to care for others. Where would we be without the people that helped someone through, either physically or emotionally, an issue that could have been life or death if the decision was left up to them.

We are made to love, we can't live without loving. Which unfortunately brings hurt. We are all human. By expecting not to be hurt wouldn't that mean you would think that you are incapable of hurting someone else. Correct me if I'm wrong but by if you want to avoid being hurt that would mean you would be trying not to hurt others. By avoiding people, that would be hurting them wouldnt it?

I think I'm going around in circles here but I'm just trying to understand how this logic works, I see now that I don't think it makes sense.

Well I know that living in fear is not beneficial at all.