Fathers have a choice

They can choose not to get up. because they know their backup plan will always work. Mothers

I hate that they can just decided not to do anything and the mother will always pick up the slack.

Is it just because we have a bond with our children? That instinct that can't bare to hear them cry for one more minute? That if we won't do it then no one else would?

My husband said that he would get up EVERY morning and feed her... Well this morning isn't every morning... Saturday isnt every morning... Thursday morning isnt every morning...

I hear excuses... My back is sore... I'm really tired. Welcome to the real world, I have had lower back pain on and off since she was born. That doesn't stop me getting up! For the first 3 months of being a mother I got up every time she made a noise. Although she is a very good baby, she still got hungry, tired and just cranky and I HAD to get up to her. In the middle of the night, early morning, late at night...

Don't get me wrong the problem isnt her... The problem is that excuses from the father are not good enough. You have no choice now that you have a daughter the least you could do was stick to what you promised to do. Make that choice to be there and keep it! This pattern won't just magically stop when she's old enough to understand. She will know if you don't keep your promises. She will learn to give excuses...

I am not the type of person to 'make' you do things. I want you to be able to make the choice yourself and do it because you want to do it... not because you have to.

If you don't make the choice... Your daughter will know...